Life Lessons, Learned the Hard Way

We all have the autonomy to choose the way that we want to be in this world. Our decisions and behaviors influence the trajectory of our lives, for better or for worse. Here is a list of life lessons that I have learned over the years that can guide reflection of the mindsets and habits that guide your day to day!

  • Observe Yourself: You are the one constant variable in your life; everything else will come and go. Invest in observing and knowing yourself to inform your life path.
  • Leverage Your Natural Cognitive Abilities: What are your inherent cognitive abilities (attention, working memory, etc.)? Which tasks are your natural thinking process well-suited for?
  • Persistence: Success rarely occurs on the first attempt.
  • Be Intentional: Your time and energy are precious commodities; don't give them away!
  • Push Outside of Your Comfort Zone
  • Don't People Please (Even for Family): Everyone is motivated by their own personal desires. Your time and energy is a gift that you can choose to give to someone, but this is a choice that only you have the power to make and an outcome that only you have to live with. Get comfortable saying "No."
  • Be Authentic: Pursue your passions and interests, and you will meet like-minded people.
  • Respond, Don't React: Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Take a moment to process the situation and then respond in a way that you will not regret.
  • Keep It Simple: We have a habit of over-complicating life. Focus on your basic needs, interests, and goals.
  • Always Be Stupid: Always be curious and seek information. Do not make assumptions.
  • Always Associate Up: Learn from and mimic others that are doing what you would like to do.
  • Know Your Value: Don't let anyone under value you. Run away from people that don't recognize your worth. There is someone out there that values what you have.
  • Choose Your Company Wisely: You are the 5 people that you associate with most. Understand how these people are influencing your life or the risks and rewards that come with associating with them.
  • Intelligence Comes in Many Forms
  • Don't Worry About Things That Are Out of Your Control
  • Show Gratitude
  • Everything is Correlated: Cause and effect, your actions impact others (put out positivity)
  • Give and Receive Feedback Often
  • Communicate Meaningfully: What does the person that you are talking to want to know? Provide detailed, accurate information.